Category: Parent Talk
Hi all. Solomon is growing like a weed eating and sleeping and just being a curious little guy. He's all eyes and ears but doesn't seem interested in sitting up. He can sit and stand if you put him in that position but won't do it himself. He can swim and do the army crawl has good hand coordination and has outgrown the little baby reflexes. Doc says not to worry. She tested his reflexes says his focus is fine visually. Is there something I'm missing? He has lots of cuddle time with me and daddy,plenty of toys, loves being outside and recognizes people he's seen before. Do I put him on the floor more often, do I try pulling him up? Would him seeing other babies sitting up and pulling up on things help? Trying not to worry here. Thanks. Tiffany
Just a suggestion
Perhaps if you and your husband were to both get on the floor
and sit across from each other with one of you placing Solomon
in a sitting up position and him in a position where his back is up
against the one he is closest too and in between that one's legs
{o.k. I am sorry if I am not very well explaining this *little sigh}
Then take a soft ball like a nerf ball or a soft sculpture ball and
roll this ball back and forth across the floor to each other
This makes a like playing "toss" game...
This may get him more so interested in sitting up and as the ball
will at times roll off to the side then Solomon may desire to crawl, creep,
&/or eventually pull himself up to standing to retrieve the plaything.
My thots are to make it "fun" for Solomon to sit up.
All the Very BEST to you and your family
EnJoy your little bundle realizing all little ones
develop at their own rate of growth.
My daughter is 8 months and can sit alone and stand supported but doesn't sit up yet either. Was he born early at all? It could just be a slight delay and it may fix itself on its own. Wait till he's at least a year old before you even begin to worry. He's probably just looking for "reasons" to sit up. Maybe you can lay him flat on his back and hold his hands and sit back further and further. The force of you pulling back and pulling him close to you will make him sit up whether he can or not. If he's being stubborn, he'll resist you and try to lay down. Then you KNOW he's just bein' a turd. :) I like the previous poster's reason for making him sit up; making it a game can often encourage them to do it on their own. I think as long as he's crawling and standing, he's doing well so far. It takes a lot of back strength to sit up. My son didn't sit up until he was crawling on hands and knees with belly off the ground. He was about to start cruising the furniture then.
Yes he was a month early. He's 10 months now. You know that's what doc said too. She said sometimes boys who are born early just take a little longer. Even then a few sessions with a pt teacher usually helps. I'll try both of these and see what he does. Tiffany.
10 months you say.. He has LOTS of time, don't worry Momma
Yes be concerned certainly, but not to worry.
Each one developes at their own rate and in their own way.
His back is developing as is the rest of him.
Strength is entering anew every day and when the time
is just right for him he will take off before you realize it
and you'll be wondering where all te time went
Especially when one day you find yourself seated across
from the table and there he is sitting across from you
engaging in conversation and sharing with you his plans for the future.
O.k. just got ahead of myself *smiles
The time does go so quickly although when right in the midst of it
it sometimes seems to be taking forever to get anything accomplished.
...please keep us here updated
as someone said above, it's normal for early babys to be late on some things, setting up was one of my son's late achevements. but he did it evenchuilly, just work with him on his levvle down in the flore and making it fun for him will help alot. keep up the good work.
Hi, how old is your son? My daughter is four, and I have an ex-friend as I am of the each child accomplishes tasks at a different rate school, she is of the if it isn't accomplished by (whatever) age school the child is messed up and you're not doing anything to help school. My daughter is taller and weighs more than the average girl. She first started sitting up w/o assistance around 8 months. I tried to put a boppy around her and sit her up by herself on our couch when she was 6 months, and she toppled forward and hit her head. She wasn't ready. Our pediatrician gave me 8 months as the average for sitting up unassisted, and that is what she did. Ex friend implied I was just leaving her in a carrier all day not doing anything to help, which was complete hogwash. She also implied our daughter was slow in other areas, and even treated me as one of her errant adult children when in fact I was practically working 3 jobs to get dear daughter to her as our then babysitter, when she wasn't even working one. Is your son average size or above the average size for a boy his age? A larger than average child may have more body mass to work with, hence it may take him a little longer to get this act coordinated. If you trust your pediatrician's answer, and he/she is satisfied that your child is doing well, go with that, if not get another pediatrician and go from there. He'll achieve this, and many other milestones with you guys' patience. Good luck.
He's a big boy, 22 pounds at 10 months. He has a playstation type thing where he can go round the circle table thing. It has toys attached to it. He does just fine in it. He has a play pen with different toys too. Then of course his crib with stuffed animals his blanky that sort of thing. We live in a small apartment so floor space is hard to come by. I can manage it in the living room. I did the pulling him up by his hands trick. He's starting to get the idea. I think he lacks hip strength. He can get on his knees or his arms but not both. We rotate him from crib to play pen to play station. Because of a back injury walks to the park and things like that have been pretty scarce. I don't have the confidence to take him out by myself.I'd feel more confident if I could wear him on my back but those backpack carriers are expensive. I'd want a good sterdy one.We've done the best we can with limited resources and even fewer friends. We live in the land of the stupids so getting accurate compassionate help is difficult. We live in upstate ny if that means anything to anyone here. The town had its tanning leather making industry yanked by the Epa so the area became pretty downtrodden and all the smart people left. We can't wait to move believe me. This is not where we want to raise our son.Tiffany
Been there, done that, with the limited floor space while Mimi was a baby. I made DH move us to another bigger apartment as many of our new neighbors in the old building had been problem people. I wasn't having the first word she ever learned be the 'f' word that rhymes with truck. One custodial dad screamed at his son so loud our tv almost shook. Sorry about the back injury. He's almost maximum weight for a front pack or I'd reccommend a Baby Bjorn carrier; these work wonders for the abdominals. And I can certainly relate to being in the 'land of the stupids'. I've heard parts of upstate NY are scenically pretty, but have never been. There are parts or MA, like Lexington, Lynnfield, and Concord that have more of a work ethic, but where we live, in areas serviced by Blue Line trains, there is such a stick one's hand out with a tin cup mindset, and I actually like not having too many friends up here. It's better, believe me. Good luck with your son and moving out of there.
I remember my cousins sitting up. They were either, propped against cushions on the floor, propped up in the centre of one of those baby rings or playnests on the floor. My 3-year-old cousin learnt to sit up like that, in one of those soft baby rings and he was flipping himself out of the ring at just 5 months old. He took a while to get crawling and walking though. Achieving the former at 8 months, the latter at 14 months. I don't think we used anything like the bumbo trademark when my cousins were little babies and learning to sit up, although that could be another way to get Solomon sitting up, placing him in a bumbo trademark with the play tray and boxes of oo, any mannor of toys appropriate for his age group, things which you know he likes to play with when he's lying on the floor. Even better, put these toys slightly out of his reach when he's lying down on the floor so he has to sit up to reach for them. Another trick I heard about is a sturdy but small cardboard box, just big enough for Solomon to sit up straight inside it with a blanket or something in there so he isn't too uncomfortable. I know that has worked on sets of twins in the past, putting them in smallish cardboard boxes as an insentive for them to just see what's above ground level which might tickle their fancies. I took a long time to sit up myself, so I think a friend of mum's threat to put haircurlers up my cardy kicked arse and spurred me on to crawling at only 7 months and cruising round the furniture just in time for my christening/baptism at 11 months old. Talk about averages, I was more or less a 1980s textbook baby, lol.
Jen.
ive heard the Bumbo seats work good. Not sure what the age limit or weight is on it. You can use a tray for snack time & they come in different colors. I plan on getting one myself.
Well, I've just looked in more depth at the Bumbo Trademark Babysitter and its suitable from age 4 months or from when babies can support their own heads, or until, baby weighs 10 KG, and Solomon weighs 11 KG, so that option's already out for him at only 10 months old. He might show more of an interest in sitting up in one of those walkers with seats and those noisy play trays with the levers, switches, buttons, telephones, bells, whistles Etc, or, does he have a jumper? as in one of those bouncy things like a walker, but springloaded rather than rolling around on casters.
Jen.
Yeah, I hear ya. We're looking to move somewhere better. Seems like we just can't get it right yet :( Good luck to you and your Solomon.
Hi all, thanks so much for the support. We've been working with him slowly increasing the frequency, when we pull him up he stays sitting up with nothing behind or around him for a good while. When we stand him up he can remain that way for a good bit too. We've started nudging his feet while holding his forearms to get him walking. He does fine with it for about 3 steps with lots of encouragement. The only thing that seems to make him do the swimming crawly bit is a comic book just out of his reach. He's just a mellow kid. Even doc couldn't get a rise out of him. My alky paranoid mom is telling me not to worry and because he's doing everything else he's supposed to doc's not worried either. He loves everything we've given him foodwise transfers objects from 1 hand to the other focuses on people and things. If he doesn't care I can't make him move. I guess aunt was right boys do win the stubborness contest. Oh yes we are so outa here. I've begun dismantling lower kitchen cupboards and we've had friends start delivering boxes. Both mom and doc said maybe it's a good thing he's not active in such a small place. I've started putting a pillow under his tummy and doing the bike-riding motion with his legs. He thinks it's funny and just laughs. I'll keep poking at him, his mama is stubborn too. Tiffany